American woman claims husband of 8 years won't split car bills: "He resents it"
A Reddit post reveals a financial conflict between a woman and her husband, as she asks him to contribute half of their car costs after he sold his own vehicle.
A woman shares her thoughts on Reddit that she believes her husband should contribute half of the costs for her car, since he sold his own vehicle and now uses hers. However, she claims he "resents" her request.
The situation has sparked a heated debate over what constitutes a fair split when one partner relies on the other’s vehicle. This disagreement has left her wondering if her request is fair or if she’s asking too much.
My husband "resents" selling his car
The woman posted her situation on the Reddit forum "Am I the A------?" to get advice on a challenging relationship issue. She explains that she and her husband, both 32, have been together for eight years. While they originally both owned cars, her husband decided to sell his a couple of years ago. Though she was reluctant to share her car, she understood his decision since his car was aging and repairs were becoming expensive. Additionally, they lived near reliable public transportation, which her husband used.
The couple had plans to move to a more rural area, and the woman made it clear that she expected her husband to buy another car once they moved. However, although they relocated nine months ago, her husband still hasn’t purchased a new vehicle. While the woman admits they "make it work," she continues to drive him to the nearest train station each day for his commute and usually lets him borrow her car when he needs it. They also split gas costs “proportionally.”
The issue, she explains, lies in the car insurance and mechanic fees. She feels the costs should be split equally since both of them depend on the car, but her husband believes they should be divided “proportionally,” as he uses the car less.
Her husband eventually agreed to cover half of the fees but admitted he “resents” the arrangement. The woman says he often retracts his offer to contribute equally when they argue. “We earn roughly the same, although he does earn a bit more,” she says, adding additional context.
The man decided to sell his car "a couple of years ago". Photo: Freepik
The woman update the post on Reddit
In an update to her post, the woman clarified that all other household expenses are split equally through a joint account, but car-related expenses have been kept separate since they each had their own cars when they first met.
Many Reddit users supported the woman's stance, saying a 50/50 split seemed fair given that her husband relies on the car. One commenter wrote, “He’s being ridiculous. Tell him he can either pay half of all car expenses or Uber to the train station and rent a car when he needs one. He's ignoring how much it actually [costs] to own a car and benefiting greatly from the fact that you're paying all the bills.”
Another user agreed, calling the argument "petty" and emphasizing that modern couples frequently split expenses equally. They criticized the idea of proportional sharing, suggesting that it could lead to absurd conclusions, like refusing to pay for utilities if one partner wasn't home for a few days.